Why Woman Don’t Stay With Needy Men

Imagine you are a woman for a moment. I may be wrong but what I have found from experience is that woman like a man who is going to look after them, make them feel secure when they are frightened or worried. Reassure them if they are feeling emotional or upset.

Woman may sometimes act tough and pretend they don’t need this.. but get this guys deep down even if they don’t admit it that’s a big part of what they are looking for. Why do you think wealthy guys have no problems getting the ladies? Money = Security and peace of mind.

I am not saying every woman is like this, I am sure there are exceptions so only generalizing here and happy to hear any woman’s point of view.

OK now with that in mind lets take a look at the needy man.. whining and seeking reassurance. Constantly asking if everything is ok and lacking in confidence in themselves…. it becomes pretty easy to see why that’s not attractive to woman right..

So guys… it’s actually quite simple if you can just get a hold of yourself, act strong, be the man. One simple line.

Make your woman feel safe and secure.

If you don’t do that, then you are probably going to struggle to hold any kind of long term meaningful relationship.

Really interested to hear others point of view on this.. so please leave a comment if you have something to say.

Published by Jack Raverton

After two marriages and a number of relationships with all manner of woman Jack has seen a lot of different things over the last few years. Jack recognizes that neediness can be a huge turn off in any relationship, so shares how not to be that needy guy, and also how to recognize the signs in others.

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  1. Society expects men to be needy and desperate for relationships and women to not want relationships at all. This is why women don’t like needy men.

  2. SOooooooo true! Coming from a woman, I can say that you hit the nail on the head here. Guys…memorize that highlighted line, “make your woman feel safe and secure!” Deep down, most if not all girls want to be rescued like you see in just about every disney princess movie. We need to know that you are going to catch is if we fall aka we can trust you. It is not about the money so much as it is about the security. If we are going to make a lifelong commitment to you, then we need to know that you can provide for us. Also, cherish your lady and she will treat you like the king that you are!

  3. Thanks Chelsea, there you go guys, straight from woman you can’t get it any clearer than that!

    The good news is you can change your self, and your life, so if you are a guy reading these articles…. could be time to take a look at yourself, and set to work on a few things.

  4. Right on! And like Chelsea said feeling secure is not about money. Why don’t men get that. If you say you need to feel secure they think your talking about how much money they have in the bank.

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