Am I Needy – Or Just A Bit Insecure?

Such a great question – Am I Needy? It is usually expected that if there is to be anyone in a relationship to be defined as needy, it would be the female.

Well if you think that is bad enough, imagine the male being the one who is needy!

But regardless of the sex of the needy partner, there is just nothing cute about this behavior and it needs to be corrected for the sake of the relationship.

What is “Needy”?

A needy partner is a sign of insecurity; this article will seek to highlight some traits of a needy partner and how to tackle them.

While a needy female partner might be a sign of insecurity, I am sure you watch the movies and know that this can sometimes be borderline for something else, such as a mental issue.

Likewise, a needy male partner might suggest control issues and might also lead to physical abuse and greater harm to come.

This might also be the borderline of something mental.

However, it could simply be a sign of insecurity and dependence, especially if the partner was a spoilt only child or similar birth order definitions to include a middle child.

The age of the person might also impact the clingy behaviour as maturity level might also be an issue.

Seperation Anxiety

Among the signs of a needy partner includes separation anxiety.

If you feel the need to call and text your partner ever so often, once separated; whether for a short period or for everyday life events like work, regardless of the fact that you know that his or her work requires undivided attention (or not) and you have absolutely nothing to talk about, then you have a problem!

This behaviour suggests that you are experiencing some sort of separation anxiety, are insecure or simply dependent. It also speaks volume about your social and family life.

Control Freak

Additionally, if you grow a coronary if your partner makes a miniscule decision without consulting you, to include changing his or her Facebook relationship status for whatever reason or purchasing a new pair of pants or a purse, then you are showing signs of insecurity and dependence.

This could also be a sign of control issue, especially if the money being spent has absolutely nothing to do with you.

This could also work the other way around if you are the one giving the partner money to spend, thereby needing to have control over how, why and what they purchase.

Needless to say, any combination of this behavior is also a warning sign.

Social Insecurity

Finally, if you feel the need to come between your partner and his or her friends’ social life and feel they no longer need to ‘hang out’ or have boys/girls night out because the time is better spent with you, then there is absolutely nothing sexy about this…and you are clingy and annoying.

Additionally, if you feel you can be your partner’s ‘jack of all trades’ where social and family life is concerned, to include secretary, mother, best friend, father and personal assistant, this is also an annoying sign of you being needy and having borderline personality issues.

If you are confident that the problem can be addressed without professional help, then try to look around and see what others are doing and try relaxing a bit.

If however, it is difficult for you to do and your partner is starting to complain or pull away, maybe it is time for you to call the counselors. Good luck.

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