Doesn’t it get on your nerves when some people consistently sing their own praises?
They are often the most socially disliked members of a group – and they are also wildly oblivious of this fact.
If this has bothered you previously, you wouldn’t be the first one.
However, there is also a very good chance that you are worried about being mistaken for the same.
After all, you may be confident about yourself, but who is to say that you don’t sound cocky?
To make matters worse, confidence and cockiness have one very important common ingredient: Self-assurance.
So if this is a common worry that keeps you up at nights, here are some differences between confidence and cocky people.
Moreover, we will also show you how to display your confidence without it being mistaken for the widely disliked alternative.
Now these are the kind of people you want to be with. They are happy, fun, and comfortable in their own skin.
Their self-assurance comes from within. They are able to realistically perceive their talents and strengths.
Conversely, this also means that they clearly recognize their own limitations.
As a result, they are usually great listeners, constantly looking to learn from others.
Moreover, confident people aren’t going to blindly follow just any new trend.
So whether it is the new Facebook display picture fad or the latest in clothes fashion, they only give in to what they truly believe.
Heck, you may even find one of them wearing two different socks, just because.
Their fearlessness when being a little different from everyone else is what makes them stand out in a crowd.
However, they aren’t always on top of everything, so if things don’t go their way, they won’t mind admitting they were wrong either.
While confidence is great, cocky clearly isn’t.
These are the people whose self-assurance stems from external sources.
This could be their bank balance, job, or even significant other – everything that is theirs is the best, greatest, and prettiest.
Take these external factors away, and they will be left flailing.
These are the boastful people at the party, so don’t be surprised to get a 30 minute talk about their incredible job if you are ever get stuck with one of them.
In fact, it’s also highly likely that you won’t be able to get a word in edgewise.
They will follow the latest trend, and will remain completely ignorant of their annoying ego.
Even as eyes roll all around them, their mouth will continue to prattle.
But that’s not all, just wait until they mess up (this shouldn’t take too long), and they will be happy to just pass the buck.
So How Do You Prevent Your Confidence from Being Mistaken for Cockiness?
We’ve already established that while one is good, the other isn’t.
So if you are worried about your confidence being mistaken for cockiness, there are some things you need to remember.
1. For one, be a good listener. You may have many talents, but there is always more to learn.
Look to learn, and your listening skills will automatically improve.
2. Quit boasting. Now that’s an important one. Talking about yourself only makes you seem like you’re too full of it.
Give others a chance, and be humble at that.
3. Never be afraid of making mistakes, and when you do, own up.
You are human after all, and this is the best way for you to learn.
4. Be yourself, whether it is your clothes, hair, speech, or anything else.
Don’t look to imitate or follow an already paved path. There is plenty of unexplored territory for you to go into.
So plunge in and explore without worrying about what anyone else thinks.
5. But while humility is a virtue, this doesn’t call for you to underestimate yourself.
The most important aspect of confidence is rooted in the realistic outlook. Assess your strengths, talents, and weaknesses.
So if you are complimented on those amazing drawings you made, no need to be too humble – accept them with grace.
6. And finally, be ambitious, not ruthless. After all, if you have the will to go far, you will.
But if you step on toes to get till the top, there is no saying who will pull the ladder down from under your feet.
You may not be the very best in all the world, but there is no denying that you are the best version of you!
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