How to Spot the Liar on Dating Websites

Love – it’s a tricky business, isn’t it? It’s everywhere, and yet it’s rare – so it’s no wonder that people are trying innovative ways to get their hands on it.

With the increasing digitization of the modern world, many are turning to the internet for everything.

From grocery shopping to finding a match, cyberspace has a solution for it all. But this comes with it’s own set of drawbacks. After all, a world where it’s easy to be anyone you want is a fraudster’s playground!

So in order to give you a fair shot at ‘love’ here are some things to keep in mind when looking for your perfect match on your app or website:

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1. Pinocchio Problems:

For starters, remember that 81% of people lie – especially on their dating profile (if not more)! All this means is that you shouldn’t be a fool in love from the very beginning. Take whatever your match says with a pinch of salt, and don’t be afraid to double-check it.

Also, remember to run your own background checks – so surf through their Facebook profile, google search their name, and go that extra mile to verify the truth. It’s not stalking if it’s a matter of safety.

2. Information ‘Under’-load:

If you google a potential match and nothing shows up, it’s time to raise the red flag.

This is simple because if this match is like a ghost on the internet, yet you’re meeting online – something doesn’t quite add up.

Either the name is a fib in itself, or perhaps you’re truly matched with a ghost.

Since the latter is less likely to be true, it’s best to excuse yourself and look for other, more ‘real’ candidates!

3. Old Photos:

This is actually a pretty common lie adopted by many, especially since everyone wants to look better and be more attractive. Consequently, you will frequently find men who claim to be wealthier and women who claim to be younger – and the best way to stand by this is through using old or edited pictures!

In order to figure out how old an image is, just surf through their Facebook or put that picture into Google Image Search, and the answer will present itself. And if there are no results, you could always ask this potential match for the truth.

Any genuine man or woman would be straightforward and honest. If not, you better keep looking.

So now that you know how to spot the most basic liars, how do you weed out the really good ones?

After all, not all 81% of the liars create a see-through fib. Moreover, it’s a lot easier to fake your identity online than in person.

With no way to observe their facial expressions or body language, it’s now time to take a good hard look at your match’s language:

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4. Short Bios:

Research has shown that liars tend to keep things short. The less they spill, the less likely they are to weave a complex web of lies (and therefore get caught)! So if you see an unusually short bio, just keep a lookout for some of these other signs as well.

5. Lesser Personal Pronouns:

Most liars don’t internalize their lies. Their fake stories are just a cover up to reach their ultimate goal. Now, this could be anything from having a one night stand to stealing your money, so in order to keep yourself safe, observe their language. Liars will tend to avoid using first person pronouns such as ‘I’ and ‘we’. This is a great way to distance themselves from the persona they’re projecting, allowing them to lie with ease!

6. Liars Negate:

Linguists have stated that liars will use more negative words such as ‘never’ and ‘not’, even when faced with an alternative. So instead of saying they’re ‘happy’ or ‘relaxed’, they may say they’re ‘not sad’. While this seems simple enough in the moment, a close examination of all those texts together might reveal the ugly truth.

7. More Cheerful:

Online liars are also less likely to admit negative emotions such as sadness or anger. So if you end up with a match too perfect to be true, don’t be hesitant to doubt it, and make sure you cover all bases before the first meeting!

So the next time you search for love online, these are some things to keep you safe. After all, while a liar may create a solid background story, oftentimes it is their own words that will be their undoing!

Published by Jack Raverton

After two marriages and a number of relationships with all manner of woman Jack has seen a lot of different things over the last few years. Jack recognizes that neediness can be a huge turn off in any relationship, so shares how not to be that needy guy, and also how to recognize the signs in others.

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  1. Hi Jack, At point 2, you mention the word “ghost” to describe someone that is not on Twitter or Facebook or on the internet. Are you saying that it is essential to date someone who is on social media? Thanks

    1. Not at all, in my opinion it is a good idea to take in all the information available to you and see if things add up.

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