Sense of Humor Vs Good Looks – What Do Women Want?

If you are a man who is looking for a woman, it would be best to hone your sense of humor.

Although losing a few pounds and pressing some weights wouldn’t hurt either, according to a recent study conducted by Stanford University School of Medicine and published recently in the journal Social Neuroscience.

According to the findings of the study, women’s brains showed superior activity than men when reacting in the reward-related areas of the brain when responding to a joke. This was the result when scientists showed 22 women and men, ages 6 to 13. These responses were to videos of people falling over and animals performing tricks.

The test subjects were also shown videos that were considered positive but not funny (dancers and snowboarders) as well as those that would be described as neutral (nature and children riding bikes).

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What About Good Looks? Are Good Looks Important?

After the question of humor, scientists went on to review what the same women looked for in the looks of a man. They found that although a man’s looks were important, they still preferred a man who could make them laugh over a man who was less able to do that.

According to a March 2015 study conducted by Men’s Health magazine, not only was sense of humor again the most important trait that women look for in a man, but there were several other traits that women look for even before they considered judging a man by his appearance. These include the following traits, both physical and emotional:


84 percent, Faithfulness. If a man wants to appeal to a woman, he needs to prove that he will be faithful to her. Women have a tendency toward attachment, a biological necessity, a matter of raising children right.

75 percent. Dependability. Three fourths of women say that they want a man who does what he says he will do. Even in the little things like picking up that loaf of bread on the way home is important to women.

67 percent. Kindness. Women might swoon over the bad boy types in the movies, but when it comes to real life, women like kindness. It also inspires confidence in him. Said another way, she knows that the way a man treats others is the way he will treat her.

23 percent. Help with the household. A woman doesn’t expect her man to be her mother, but when it comes to the household, she wants a man who won’t leave all the household chores to her. Said another way, help with making the bed, learn to make a few meals, and help with the dishes will go a long way.

21 percent. Earning potential. If you want a woman to be attracted to you, be successful in your career. Demonstrate goal achievement, talent, and follow-through, and you will appear to be a good provider.

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30 percent. Style. The way a man dresses reflects on a woman. She knows this and she thrives on it. Keep your tailor and dry cleaner on speed dial, and she’s notice.

26 percent. Handsome face. Is your face symmetrical? Do your ears and eyes match up? The more they align to each other, the more attractive she will find a man. Bottom line: smile more, but keep your hair trimmed.

15 percent. Tall, dark, and handsome
isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be, but women like it when a man is taller than she is.

13 percent. Muscular build. Try spending a little more time standing in front of the bathroom mirror and not the gym mirror. Women who value a clean-shaven man outnumber any other by nearly three to one. Having a muscular build will ensure that you don’t drop her during a dip.

12 percent. Fitness. Women as well as other men, recognize that a fit body is indicative of a man who is self-disciplined and who has self-control. Being fit also tells a woman that she can count on her man, out of the bed as well as in.

Bottom line: having a sense of humor trumps being a looker any day, but staying in shape means a lot too. Staying a little longer at the gym helps, but it might also do well to buy a copy of a good book on humor.

Published by Jack Raverton

After two marriages and a number of relationships with all manner of woman Jack has seen a lot of different things over the last few years. Jack recognizes that neediness can be a huge turn off in any relationship, so shares how not to be that needy guy, and also how to recognize the signs in others.

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