What Does Needy Mean in a Relationship?

Insecurity, jealousy and neediness wrap together into a toxic relationship killing formula. What may be a strong bond between a man and a woman will wither and die over time if it is fed little else except the poison of neediness.

What are the signs of neediness in a relationship?

It’s pretty easy to spot the signs of neediness when you take a step back and look at them. If you are the needy person however, it may be difficult for you to come to terms with exactly what is going on.

Insecure behavior

Most of us have felt insecure in a relationship at some time or another. It’s when you feel unsettled and worried that your partner might not be that happy with you – maybe they will run off with someone else or are secretly flirting with another person.

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Image: flickr

That’s what insecurity is, but insecure behavior is the manifestation of those fears into your relationship.

Examples of this include questioning about where someone was, who they were with and what they were doing. This shows distrust – unless you are only asking out of interest.

Lets imagine your partner works late at the office one night. Showing insecure behavior would be if you were grilling your partner about who else was at the office and what exactly was going on. Trust and security is just accepting that they were working overtime and leaving it at that.

Worrying about it, and quizzing someone needlessly is not going to help except to weaken your stature in your partners eyes.

Self confidence and security are attractive qualities. Insecure behavior and an obvious lack of confidence is simply not attractive.

Only focusing on the other person and not your own life

Have you given up your friends and hobbies so you can just focus on your relationship?

Well that is a very bad idea!

Spying on your partner

If you have the urge to check your partners phone, and spy on them when you are not with them – then you have a major problem.

This is not normal behavior and you should stop doing that right now.

Yes logging in and checking their email account when they are not around is bad – very bad.

Social media stalking

Are you worried about every new Facebook friend your partner is adding to their friends list?

Do you wonder who exactly they spend their time chatting to on social media?

These are sure signs of needy behavior and if you don’t want to be needy, then stop them.

Mastering Needy Behavior

Now here is the thing, it is possible to be a bit needy inside, but not actually show that you are needy. To accomplish this you need to learn to shut up whenever your mouth tries to burst out something needy.

By acting in a confident manner, your life will improve so much that you will actually become more confident.

Tell us about your neediness or your partners?

Published by Jack Raverton

After two marriages and a number of relationships with all manner of woman Jack has seen a lot of different things over the last few years. Jack recognizes that neediness can be a huge turn off in any relationship, so shares how not to be that needy guy, and also how to recognize the signs in others.

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