Why Do Women Change After Time in a Relationship?

Whether it’s your wife that changed after you married her, or the girlfriend you have been dating for six months. One thing is clear – that woman from the first date, is very different to tho the one you are with now.

Why is this?

Why do women change and is there anything we can do about it?

The five steps of relationship change

Unfortunately we don’t have any scientific evidence to back this up, however these are the stages that we have certainly experienced ourselves, and heard about from others.

Month 1-3 “Interest”

This is what is known as the “honeymoon phase” of a relationship. No angry tirades. Jealousy and neediness have not yet kicked in, and everything is great.


Month 3-6 “Trap Set – The Bait”

By the time month 3 is up, the woman has her hook dangling around in front of the unsuspecting man with a big piece of juicy bait just begging to be eaten. The writing as they say.. is on the wall.

She is still the sweet nice girl you met back in the first month although things may seem a little more strained at times, compared to the early days of your dating.

Month 6-12 – “Hooked”

Often the woman will be starting to feel pretty comfortable with where she is at in the relationship by month 6 or 7. What this means for you unfortunately is that the truth is going to be slowly unraveled in front of your very eyes.

That pretty stress free girl that was understanding each time you went out with your friends, and never seemed to get angry will slowly begin to reveal her true colors to you.

This is the time to escape if you can.

She has you hooked.

1 Year plus – “Reeled in”

Everything has changed. You are now like a reeled in fish, twitching around on the ground gasping for life.

You now know exactly who you are in a relationship with.

For many, it is too late.

Image: Flickr
Image: Flickr

This may come much later in the relationship, especially if she is trying to get a ring on her finger. Some guys have been dating their girls for years before they show their true colors.

Only one thing is sure, sooner or later the truth will be revealed.

How can we turn back the clock?

Life is about choices.

No-one held a gun to your head and forced you into the relationship you now find yourself in. This leaves us a few options and here they are.

  • Do nothing
  • Change the relationship
  • End the relationship

This may be a tough choice to make, but you know more than anyone, it needs to be made.

If you choose to do nothing, you might as well stop complaining about the problem and just get used to it.

To change the relationship may be tricky, but if she is open to a discussion on the problems, you may get somewhere with that.

Otherwise it may be a good decision to end the relationship.

What are you going to do?

Published by Jack Raverton

After two marriages and a number of relationships with all manner of woman Jack has seen a lot of different things over the last few years. Jack recognizes that neediness can be a huge turn off in any relationship, so shares how not to be that needy guy, and also how to recognize the signs in others.

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