Love can turn to hate.
A poor relationship is worse than single life.
When you are stuck in a relationship that is bad it can become soul destroying.
You don’t know what to do.
It is hard to see a way out.
How do I know all this? Well I have been stuck in more than my fair share of bad marriages and bad relationships. There have been times where I have needed to grow a pair of balls to get out of the situation.
Learn from my mistakes
Once bitten twice shy is not just a phrase from years gone past. It is a sentence to live by.
Ideally you would not get into a relationship that was crappy in the first place. But I get it. She smiles at you, lures you into bed and before you know it you are buying house together.
Plan your exit strategy
It’s very important to proceed with patience and a cool head. If you lose it right now it could be destructive both financially and emotionally.
You need to keep a cool demeanour and plan ahead.
Start sorting out your financial situation. Make sure you don’t leave yourself open especially if you have joint accounts and credit cards.
Figure out where you are going to live, and where is she going to live.
Open your own bank account, in your name only, and make sure you have enough put aside to keep things going for at least a month should your joint accounts become frozen.
How to do it on the day
Make sure you are sober and well rested before you go ahead with a life changing event.
As bad as it might sound you really need to make sure your plan is in order. Would a ship sail without a course to navigate?
Tell her you need to talk and don’t make it an option.
Explain to her the main issue(s) and why you are leaving. (note how this is not a maybe thing, you need to be concise and explain exactly what is happening)
Pack your things up and leave.
That is it.