Why Women Find Bad Boys Irresistible

The confusing and seemingly self defeating phenomenon of women choosing bad boys and ignoring the normal (‘nice’) guys happens everywhere.

We see it in the relationships of people in our lives, in college, in books and even in movies.

Bad boys are all over the place, in all shapes and sizes-oozing with unmatched sex appeal.

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Bad Boys Are Confident And Know How To Talk To Women

Bad boys brim with unbridled confidence which helps them get away with almost anything.

They are not only confident around their friends-their cocky attitude is evident in everything they do from ordering a glass of wine to eating their breakfast cereal.

Their confidence is a major turn on for women.

This confidence also makes the bad boys less self-conscious.

Where a normal guy would pass up talking to a woman because they consider themselves not good enough, a bad boy will readily rise to the challenge.

Bad boys are women magnets because they like to keep women guessing, are risk-takers and like exploring the wild side of life.

The combination of adventure, intrigue and excitement is a mind-blowing cocktail for women.

The confidence of bad boys makes talking to women a piece of cake.

With the woman’s interest already sparked, conversation is just the way to reel them in. They know how to say just what the women want to hear.

They utilize their excellent conversational skills to keep women hanging on to their every word.

Bad boys simply do not care, and apply a take-it-or-leave-it approach to most dating situations.

If a woman declines their advances they move on to the next one with the same gusto and devil-may-care attitude.

They are indifferent and do not obsess about being ‘Mr. Right’.

If a woman turns them down, unlike normal guys, their confidence is not crushed.

They Are Challenging and Mysterious

Women do not like men who are pushovers.

They also dislike men who they can see coming from a mile away.

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Contrary to the common perception that women prefer men they can read like a book and who provide a sense of security, women actually love guessing.

This is more challenging for them, and it is one of the chief reasons that keeps them hooked to the bad boy and makes them keep coming back for more.

Some women will also be attracted by the challenge of converting the bad boy into a supporting, sensitive and loving man.

However, most women find that such attempts normally end up in tears for them.

They Are Very Masculine

This is a corollary to being exciting, confident indifferent and adventurous.

Bad boys often cultivate a demeanor of being tough and in-control.

This is not the same as being controlling, it just means they know how to get whatever they want.

They talk confidently and clearly, look at people in the eye, are passionate about their beliefs and-most importantly, they know how to treat a woman.

Bad Boys Provide Women With A Feeling Of Power

The illusion or impression of control that being in a relationship with a bad boy gives to a woman is powerful and addictive.

This relationship gives the woman an air of togetherness and strength.

In essence the cocky, confident image of the bad boy rubs off a little on the woman-and she cannot help lapping it all up.

In Conclusion

The attraction of women to bad boys has been extensively researched by sociologists, psychologists and relationship experts.

Some studies even suggest that there are women who, due to their background and childhood experiences, have an especially high affinity for bad boys.

Examples include women whose fathers were wild and rebellious (who think the bad boys will impress their daddy) or whose fathers neglected their needs and they want to ease their childhood pain.

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Other examples include women with low self-esteem issues who feel they are unworthy of a normal guy.

Most studies reveal that as women grow older they become stronger and their goals become clearer.

They are still attracted to the bad boys but having a more purposeful relationship with a reliable mate becomes a greater priority.

The bad boys with their undoubted magnetism simply become not worth it anymore.

For many women, a certain level of maturity is needed to reach such a decision, and this only happens when the right guy appears in a woman’s life.

Having dated bad boys before makes a woman appreciate him more.

Women revel in the devotion and loving gestures and in the end, the good (normal) guy wins.

How do Nerdy Men Flirt?

Have you ever wondered to yourself if that cute nerdy guy sitting nearby was flirting with you?

Most men will approach you, and won’t be afraid to aggressively pursue you.

These are the men you can lure in – because they will bite.

However, the nerdy kind is an entirely different ball game.

Nerds are usually shy, and utterly devoted to their chosen field – this can be anything, from snails to stars.

Their immense interest focused on a specific subject is what makes them a nerd.

So if that drummer you met at the bar can go on about the specifics of his instrument for a good hour, you know he is a nerd.

Their incredible interest and knowledge about their subject is what frequently makes them a little socially awkward.

Now, while it’s completely possible that a nerd is an outgoing party person, most aren’t.

This is because they seem to focus all their energy on a particular topic, and so they don’t necessarily understand the basic skills needed to carry out a regular flirting conversation.

Consequently, don’t be surprised if he ends up giving you a two-hour lecture on tiger scat as though it’s the most amazing topic ever.

He really does believe that. But if he is so socially awkward, how does a nerdy man flirt?

 

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Well, the lack of social skills and the inherent shyness that comes with it can make this a bit of a challenge.

For one thing, such men tend to be extremely subtle. No one likes being shot down, least of all the nerds.

Moreover, they are a lot less confident at this game as opposed to the more experienced bunch.

As a result, that cute little maniac sitting next to you might just break into a sweat before he finishes saying, ‘hello!’

So don’t expect a smooth pick up line or a suave gesture to sweep you off your feet just yet.

Here is how a nerdy man might try to flirt instead:

 The Invite:

Where any average man might ask their crush if they would like to go for dinner and a movie, a nerd will take an entirely different approach.

To that pretty face, they may look deep into their eyes and ask, ‘Will you join me for World of Warcraft tonight?’

If you are tempted to laugh – don’t. He is entirely serious.

Whenever a nerd invites you to join him in his subject of obsession – he definitely likes you.

So whether it is a documentary, museum exhibit, or even some book reading – go for it if this is the nerd of your dreams.

Little Things:

Nerds tend to be a little weak on their flirting game – if you didn’t know that already.

So they are also the more shy, romantic kind.

This means, he will express his feelings in the most subtle way possible.

From staring while he thinks you aren’t looking, to little gestures that could often be overlooked.

He will remember the important things in your life, give you meaningful presents, and even try impressing you with his immense knowledge.

All of this is, of course, unless he is Sheldon Cooper.

 

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The Silent Move:

But just when you thought the nerdy flirting moves can’t get any stranger – they do.

A regular man will be thrilled if you sit next to him.

He will strike up a conversation and try to keep it going.

A nerd, on the other hand, will sit right there.

There is a good chance he won’t even say a word except for numerous side glances in your direction.

This can be a little creepy, but he really just doesn’t know what to say! So in the nerd-realm, not getting up and moving to another seat can be seen as a sign of (at least) liking the other person.

A regular man will admit woefully, ‘you can never figure a woman out’, but we all know that’s not true.

It’s the nerdy man that wins this prize.

You can never know what they are thinking, because they tend to overthink every glance, gesture, and action.

“She blinked her eyes at me – what could that possibly mean??” – granted that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but their intellect makes them more prone to overthinking.

So if you have a nervous nerd standing in front of you trying to splutter the right words out, chances are – he is trying to ask you out.

 

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What Does A Woman Consider as Masculine? It’s Simple

Men often tend to be pretty clueless about what women want.

So when it comes to looking more attractive to them, men are frequently stumped.

Many choose the easy answer: going to the gym. After all, a buff physique is a sign of masculinity, isn’t it?

Shouldn’t that get the girls throwing themselves at you – it certainly works in all the men in television ads!

The truth is, an irresistible physique never hurts when it comes to getting the girl of your dreams, but isn’t always the determining factor.

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Science says women look for physically fit men because this indicates good health – always a plus in the mating market.

Moreover, higher testosterone levels are linked with a stronger immune system, an important factor when you consider survival from an evolutionary perspective.

But the truth is, beefed up muscles and and a great physique isn’t all that will win you the ladies.

Women today are looking beneath the surface when it comes to selecting the right partner.

So for all you baffled men out there, listen up!

Masculinity is more than just appearance.

So even if your cheekbones don’t cut glass, you still have a strong chance of winning your woman if you genuinely exhibit certain masculine characteristics – and we aren’t talking muscles.

Women are usually great believers in what a man is really like, so try letting your compassionate side out every once in a while.

What women consider masculine:

1. Confidence:

And we don’t mean cockiness. A simple self-assurance of yourself is enough.

Have faith in yourself and your abilities, and let this show through your actions instead of your words.

2. Responsibility:

If you are looking to date a woman, you need to be a man. Take charge of your life and decisions.

So if you are a 30 year old man living in your parent’s basement working at the local theater – you clearly don’t understand the meaning of the word.

3. Purpose and Direction:

Once you take the reins of life into your hands, here comes the next step – purpose.

Keep an aim and try to achieve it as best you can.

Work towards it with unfaltering dedication, and you will automatically up your market value when it comes to women.

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3. Courage:

There is no doubt that courage is one of the biggest signs of masculinity.

It doesn’t mean that you have to go fight the Great White Shark with your bare hands, but rather that you have the ability to be yourself and make the right decision at all times.

It doesn’t matter if people will laugh, or if someone makes fun of you – so long as you are confident, you will also be courageous.

4. Empathy:

While this should be a sign of humanity as a whole, this is definitely something women find attractive in men.

When a man is able to go out of his way to do something nice, it gets a woman going like nothing else.

This could be giving your pizza away to the hungry homeless man, or perhaps helping an old woman cross the street.

In a woman’s book, a caring, empathetic man is a masculine man.

5. Good Listener:

Every woman loves a man she can share her day with.

She wants to make him a part of her life rather than just being a part of his, so being a good listener is important.

She is looking to share all the important little bits of her day, no matter how mundane they sound.

Whether it is the new fax machine they got in the office, or the sweet letter she received from a friend, it’s all important to her.

If a man isn’t a good listener, all these little bits of information will simply remain unspoken and will ultimately hamper communication.

6. Honesty:

Let’s get something straight – dishonesty is not attractive. Every woman loves a man who is honest with her.

After all, any woman worth her salt will walk away the moment she senses BS sprouting from a man’s mouth.

Truthfulness, on the other hand, is an extremely attractive masculine characteristic in a woman’s book.

7. Humor:

A man who can make a woman laugh can win her heart forever.

A smart, funny, caring, and reliable man is a woman’s kryptonite.

This is the man more likely to get the girls than the buff man looking to show off his abs.

A woman’s definition of masculine is very different from a man’s perspective, so rather than just aiming at physical fitness, look to developing your inner self.

While not every woman wants the same things, above is a list of common characteristics that almost all woman are on the lookout for.

So you can stop scratching your head now – women aren’t all that complicated!

 

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Confidence Vs. Cocky – How Not To Have One Mistaken For The Other

Doesn’t it get on your nerves when some people consistently sing their own praises?

They are often the most socially disliked members of a group – and they are also wildly oblivious of this fact.

If this has bothered you previously, you wouldn’t be the first one.

However, there is also a very good chance that you are worried about being mistaken for the same.

After all, you may be confident about yourself, but who is to say that you don’t sound cocky?

To make matters worse, confidence and cockiness have one very important common ingredient: Self-assurance.

So if this is a common worry that keeps you up at nights, here are some differences between confidence and cocky people.

Moreover, we will also show you how to display your confidence without it being mistaken for the widely disliked alternative.

Confident People:

Now these are the kind of people you want to be with. They are happy, fun, and comfortable in their own skin.

Their self-assurance comes from within. They are able to realistically perceive their talents and strengths.

Conversely, this also means that they clearly recognize their own limitations.

As a result, they are usually great listeners, constantly looking to learn from others.

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Moreover, confident people aren’t going to blindly follow just any new trend.

So whether it is the new Facebook display picture fad or the latest in clothes fashion, they only give in to what they truly believe.

Heck, you may even find one of them wearing two different socks, just because.

Their fearlessness when being a little different from everyone else is what makes them stand out in a crowd.

However, they aren’t always on top of everything, so if things don’t go their way, they won’t mind admitting they were wrong either.

Cocky People:

While confidence is great, cocky clearly isn’t.

These are the people whose self-assurance stems from external sources.

This could be their bank balance, job, or even significant other – everything that is theirs is the best, greatest, and prettiest.

Take these external factors away, and they will be left flailing.

These are the boastful people at the party, so don’t be surprised to get a 30 minute talk about their incredible job if you are ever get stuck with one of them.

In fact, it’s also highly likely that you won’t be able to get a word in edgewise.

They will follow the latest trend, and will remain completely ignorant of their annoying ego.

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Even as eyes roll all around them, their mouth will continue to prattle.

But that’s not all, just wait until they mess up (this shouldn’t take too long), and they will be happy to just pass the buck.

So How Do You Prevent Your Confidence from Being Mistaken for Cockiness?

We’ve already established that while one is good, the other isn’t.

So if you are worried about your confidence being mistaken for cockiness, there are some things you need to remember.

1. For one, be a good listener. You may have many talents, but there is always more to learn.

Look to learn, and your listening skills will automatically improve.

2. Quit boasting. Now that’s an important one. Talking about yourself only makes you seem like you’re too full of it.

Give others a chance, and be humble at that.

3. Never be afraid of making mistakes, and when you do, own up.

You are human after all, and this is the best way for you to learn.

4. Be yourself, whether it is your clothes, hair, speech, or anything else.

Don’t look to imitate or follow an already paved path. There is plenty of unexplored territory for you to go into.

So plunge in and explore without worrying about what anyone else thinks.

5. But while humility is a virtue, this doesn’t call for you to underestimate yourself.

The most important aspect of confidence is rooted in the realistic outlook. Assess your strengths, talents, and weaknesses.

So if you are complimented on those amazing drawings you made, no need to be too humble – accept them with grace.

6. And finally, be ambitious, not ruthless. After all, if you have the will to go far, you will.

But if you step on toes to get till the top, there is no saying who will pull the ladder down from under your feet.

You may not be the very best in all the world, but there is no denying that you are the best version of you!

 

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Advice For Men: Show A Woman Your Interest Without Seeming Too Needy

When it comes to relationships, neediness can and often does ruin everything.

In fact, being a little too needy even prevents relationships from starting in the first place.

Chances are high that you’ve dealt with such situations in the past.

Perhaps a woman showed mutual interest in you, but you came across as needy, which shoved you into the “Just Friends” category.

Not everyone considers a needy woman a problem, but the opposite is true for needy men, and there are certain steps you can take to avoid problems.

Here’s some advice and tips for how to show a girl you are interested in her, without sounding needy or pushy:

Showing Interest Without Showing TOO MUCH Interest

Before getting a girl’s number or taking her out, you have to show some interest in her.

Of course, human beings can’t always sense the feelings of others, so you have to take some initiative.

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You could invite her out to do something that you’re both interested in.

You could simply try to spend more time with her apart from other human beings.

However, it’s important to show basic interest at first without piling it on or becoming pushy.

If she says “No” or hesitates about your advances, then don’t push the issue any further.

Similarly, back off if she seems interested in the idea but not at that exact moment.

An Important Note About “No”

When a woman pushes back against your advances, there are two ways to respond.

Firstly, you can keep pushing your interest in that woman, coming across as needy and annoying.

You can otherwise back off and perhaps give up or try again sometime down the road.

The latter option is always the smartest option because a woman’s interest in you won’t increase by bombarding her with date requests or invitations.

If you just met, then perhaps she’ll show interest later, but don’t ruin that possibility by pushing the issue now.

Stop Talking To Her Every Second Of The Day!

Say that a cute and interesting girl has given you her number without a second thought.

She’s showing as much interest as you are, and you immediately get the urge to text or call her frequently.

Well, you shouldn’t do that because no two human beings need to speak every moment of every day.

Even married couples spend some time apart throughout the day, so take a cue from married life.

You immediately come across as needy, not to mention creepy, with constant texts and calls.

Give her some breathing room!

Hey, why are some of us needy, anyways?

Every human being requires a different level of attention from our family members, friends, and love interests.

Likewise, each person’s tolerance for neediness stands at a different level.

You might not think of yourself as needy, but other people might want to hand you a trophy for neediness.

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We have to be self-aware to some degree and gauge what another individual’s tolerance for neediness is, or problems could soon develop, especially in relationships or potential relationships with women.

In Early Dating Stages, Don’t Forget About Buffer Periods!

Sometimes, we need a break from the people in our lives, even if it’s a short break.

Say you’re dating a woman and going out with her every few days or each week.

You should take the time in between those dates and treat such time as a buffer period.

During a buffer period, you shouldn’t inundate a woman with calls or texts.

You don’t have to see a potential girlfriend every day of the week. The chances are, that if you do, she’ll find you needy beyond belief.

Relax during those buffer periods, and you won’t seem needy.

Neediness: Always A Negative Trait For Men, Don’t Forget It!

In the end, nothing is worse than coming across as needy, especially as a man.

You’re not going to win over many girls by showing a penchant for neediness.

That’s even more true if you haven’t been dating this woman for long, or even at all.

As you’re courting a woman and before the relationship develops, you need to dial down your tendency to be needy.

Don’t try rush into things. Don’t try to push her into a date or harass her with frequent attempts to make conversation.

For better results, slow down, relax, and take things slowly.

You might feel the need for tons of attention from a potential girlfriend, but that’s the exact need that could make a potential girlfriend become a friend, or someone that can’t stand you!

 

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Desperate Woman Signs – 10 Blatant Symptoms of Pure Desperation for a Man

If there is one type of woman a man should stay away from it is a desperate one.

Make sure you know the signs, before it is to late.

Heres the deal:

There is one thing that most women, and even men, in the world are needing to feel fulfilled – Love and being wanted.

Women are very fragile creatures, because of this the need exists in many of them to find the love of a good man.

Being man-less for a woman can mean the dreaded thought of being alone.
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That threat of living life alone will drive some women into having men in their lives, who they don’t really want, but are willing to put up with as they would rather have that guy, than no guy at all.

Once a woman becomes afraid of being single, desperation creeps in.

Being desperate for a man will lead a woman into doing strange things, which instead of attracting men to her, will push men away.

10 Signs of a Desperate Woman

1. She craves male company

This is more of a feeling than a sign, however this fear of being lonely will make a desperate woman jump in and out relationships.

Since all the woman wants is to have a man by her side, she will date anyone, even if she knows that their partner is not really worth the relationship.

2. She aims low

Most women have pretty high values and expectations concerning the type of partner they want to date.

A desperate woman is an exception, as she will go out with any type of man, without being selective about his traits, or concerned about his behavior.

3. She is not time-bound

A desperate woman will do anything just to get a date with a guy. She will always make herself free whenever she is approached to go out and she would rather reschedule vital things in her calendar in order to have that one crucial date with a man.

For you guys this means pay more attention to the woman that is hard to pin down for a date, rather than the lady that will do anything to change her life to fit you in.

Ladies, if you don’t want to appear to be desperate, play a little bit hard to get – if a man is really interested in you, he will keep on making the effort to fit in with you.

4. She excessively calls or texts the man

A confident women will believe that it is the man’s work to call the woman early in the relationship.

A woman who is desperate will tend to call or text the man, even when the man has not replied to any of her texts or calls.

5. She dresses in scanty clothes to capture men’s attention

Dressing up in tight and super-sexy clothes and constantly passing through places where she knows men are in plenty is what a desperate woman does. This is because she need to show off herself to men so as to be approached by them.

6. She is alright with everything the man wants

A woman who agrees to everything the man wants, does or thinks is desperate. She is afraid of being left if she speaks her mind.

Sooner rather than later, the man will be bored by her since she is a woman with no opinions, ideologies or interests.

7. She is always looking for compliments

A desperate woman has low self-esteem and a poor self-image. This will make her rely strongly on the compliments given by the man, not knowing that this is weary for the man.

8. She forgives very easily

Even in cases of insults from the man, she will forgive him very fast, in order to keep him by her side.

9. She is always stalking the man she is focused on

She constantly checks his social media pages and checks out his recent friend lists.

This is done because of jealousy and insecurity – she want so make sure the man’s attention is on her – and her alone.

10. Her life revolves around the man’s life

A desperate woman will get addicted to the man very fast and thus look into everything he does.

Desperate women should be careful because men will take advantage of their desperation – once they have won her heart the danger is that they will get bored and move onto a woman that is more of a challenge.

Have you had a close encounter with a desperate woman that you would like to share?

Tips On How Not To Be Needy When Dating

Dating can be a difficult activity to participate in.

Many people have issues with becoming too needy when they are dating someone. This can cause the other person to feel trapped so they run in the other direction.

Here are some tips on how not to be needy when dating.

Be a Good Listener

Many people become too needy and make everything topic of conversation all about them.

This can cause them to not listen to what their partner has to say when they are on a date.

People need to be good listeners and ask questions so that the person sees that they are engaged in the conversation.

Individuals need to focus on being able to listen not to respond back, but to learn new things about the one that they are dating.

Do Not Become Too Dependent on the Other Person

When a person dates someone, this should not change who they are.

Many people become too dependent on the other person and become jealous when they schedule time to be with their friends or family members and do not want to include them.

A healthy relationship can only be achieved if both people have a firm sense of who they are and can socialize with others outside of their relationship.

People also need to focus on maintaining their own sense of self so if there is a break up, they can pick up the pieces and start over again.

Avoid Trying to Schedule Too Many Dates in One Week

People often can become too needy when they try to occupy their partner’s time seven days per week.

This can make people feel suffocated which can turn them off. It is beneficial to schedule one to two dates each week on designated days so that people can plan ahead.

Do Not Text or Call the Person All the Time

Trust is a huge issue in a relationship. One issue that irritates people is when the person that they are dating calls or texts them incessantly.

This can signal a lack of trust which can be a sign that a person is too needy.

It is crucial for both parties to view themselves as equal.

If one person become too concerned with what the other is doing when they are not together then trust cannot be created.

Establish Dating Rules

It is important for people to approach dating in a strategic way so that both of them are on the same page.

One way to do this is to establish dating rules that both people will abide by. This helps to establish a list of objectives so that the relationship can flourish over time.

Understand the Importance of Being Selfless

People who are needy in relationships are often selfish and only think about their own wants and needs.

It is important for people to take a step back and ask their significant other about what they need or would like to do.

This shows thoughtfulness and allows the person to see that they are dating someone who makes their needs a priority.

How To Be a Man That Women Want

When meeting women or going on an important first date, first impressions are everything.

You need to present yourself as the type of person that women would naturally want to be with.

Depending on the depth of your experience and your social skills, this can be a difficult task.

Fortunately, there are a few common things that make a man appear highly desirable.

By focusing on these general rules of thumb, you can develop a persona and a relationship style that will be naturally successful with a wide range of women.

Value Your Time

Many folks who have dating issues don’t see the girl they’re out with as a choice.

Instead, they feel like this date is something they have to endure–since they can’t possibly get with anyone else.

This is a huge turn-off for most women, and it sets the stage for an awful dating experience.

Start by reminding yourself that you are choosing to spend time with this woman tonight.

Then, when you’re out, look for all of the interesting and attractive things that make you feel glad about your choice.

If there aren’t any, make the choice to forego a second date. This approach to dating will help you develop control and confidence–two things that women find incredibly sexy.

Take Your Grooming Seriously

You’ve probably witnessed how long women take to get ready for a date.

Everything about their appearance is carefully styled and nothing is left to chance.

You should take the same approach to your own appearance, and not just when you’re going out on a date.

You never know when Ms. Right is going to show up.

Pay attention to the little things about your appearance that often go unnoticed.

Keep your nails clean and trimmed, shave or groom your facial hair daily, and make sure that your clothes are an accurate representation of the type of person you are.

You’ll find that women will treat you differently, and you’ll have a much easier time when interacting with them.

Speak Little, Listen a Lot

If you’re the type of person that gets nervous when interacting with women, you’re likely showing that through the way you speak.

Nervous people tend to speak quickly, stammer, and often talk in circles.

This type of conversation does nothing to show your intellect or wit. Also, unless you’re the most interesting man in the world, you’ll run out of topics pretty quickly.

Instead, follow the first rule of social conversation–get the woman talking about herself.

People of both genders are always more comfortable when they’re talking about themselves, and you’ll avoid any verbal mistakes.

Talk only to get the woman talking about herself, then quiet down. She’ll take the lead and you’ll come off as classy and interested in her.

None of these ideas are exclusive to certain types of people. You can be true to yourself while valuing your time, being serious about your grooming, and talking less than you normally would.

In essence, all you’re really doing is taking steps to ensure that you put your best foot forward. That’s really all it takes.

A Day In The Life Of A Needy Man

Every woman wants to experience the thrill of falling in love and forever being in the arms of a man who understands her flaws, but still cherishes and loves her every day.

However, times are changing and some new trends are beginning to emerge in society.

New Breed Of Mamas Boys

There has emerged a new breed of man – Mama’s boys are those guys who are always needy and demand too much attention from their girlfriends, this becomes terminal to the relationship.

A day in life of a needy man

Morning 08:00 – 12:00PM
A needy man begins his day by feeling sorry for himself, complaining about how hard his life is, and then with a series of questions fired at his lady finds out what she has planned for the day.

He wants to know this, so he can check up on her constantly, as he is very insecure. He always thinks that by default she is lying to him and doing things other than what she might be saying she is.

Because of this insecurity, and his neediness, he calls and texts her all the time as he needs to know that she is not getting up to mischief!

He tracks her whereabouts throughout the morning and will question why she may not have immediately answered his calls, or return his texts.

As you can imagine it doesn’t take very long for any woman to get sick of this routine.

Afternoon 12:00pm to 5:00PM
He tries to catch up with his beloved for lunch, even though it may be completely impractical.

If she already has plans with a friend, he will need to know the details and will try to make sure it is not a male. He will probably also try to join in!

He will try to randomly visit her work, meet her friends and family and become a part of everything.

Evening 5:00pm to Midnight

He sees her phone sitting unattended, so sneaks onto it and checks her messages and email to see who she has been talking to.

He is also trying to find signs of her lying to him, or communications with other men.

The reason he does this, is not because he is some kind of spy – he is overwhelmed with insecurity and continues to sense that the lady might be cheating on him.

What becomes of the needy man?

These behaviors slowly kill a relationship, no matter how much the lady may love her man. After a few conversations with her girlfriends and a little Googling on the symptons she will be ready to move on, and drop the needy guy.

A needy man, if he continues down this road, actually makes his worse fears realized by driving the women into the arms of another, more attractive confident and secure man.

Needy Men Are On The Increase – And These Are The Reasons Why

It is surprising that needy men are on the rise.

Men have traditionally been know as hard working and independent creatures but in recent times some of them have turned out to be extremely emotionally needy.

Though it is hard to imagine why a woman would accommodate a needy man, some of them are lured by the men into relationships under what you could call “false pretences”.

They fall in love only to find themselves stuck in a place where they didn’t ever dream they would be – stuck with an emotional needy man.

Why needy men are on the rise

There are many factors that have prompted the rise of needy men; some of these include

  • Gender equality, and the increasing influence of women on society and decision-making positions
  • No longer being needed as much has had this surprising side effect – women don’t necessarily need men to provide for them anymore as they can now make the same income as men
  • More accepting society – In some countries there would be no such thing as a needy man, but the western world, along with the new age guy have made it this way

To sum it up – needy men are on the rise because the society has eroded such social norms.

Signs of a needy man

Being with a needy partner can become emotionally exhausting, hence it’s important to look out for signs of neediness before you get into a relationship.

How to tell if he is needy or not is not always easy but it’s possible if you look out for a few clues.

One of the signs of a needy partner is the fact that he misses you all the time.

Even when you’ve been apart for a few minutes he sends you messages and phone calls that he can’t stand being away from you and he needs you.

This may be nice at first but over time it can become quite annoying.

Sometimes you may even think to yourself “get a life buddy”!

Needy men normally try to rush things along. They want to get into a relationship after even as few as 2 dates, they want to marry you right away, and they basically don’t want to wait for the relationship to develop.

They want to seal the deal and lock you down as quickly as they can.

Needy men want to be in every part of your life; they’ll often add you on every social network, they’ll comment on all your photos, they may change their Facebook status to “In a relationship” even though that’s not officially the case, and they will always want to talk to you.

They basically suffocate you and do not give you room to interact with others.

Another sign of how to tell if he is needy or not is if a man gives constant ultimatums.

Clingy men will often give you ultimatums such as “It’s either your friends or me”.

They don’t want anything to come between you and them, because they want you all to themselves.

You may also notice that these kind of men don’t have friends anymore because their world revolves around you.

A needy man may also enjoy arguing with you as it may make you feel inferior, which in his mind means that you need him just as he needs you.

He’ll often ask for reassurance of whether you still love him and want to be with him.

He’s generally an insecure man even if you’ve been dating for a while.

There are other signs of how to tell if he is needy or not, but the ones listed above are the main ones.

Whether you’re looking for or trying to avoid, a needy man, the signs above should be able to help you.